N O V A
If you can feel it
you can heal it
love reveals everything unlike itself
A Mindful Self-Compassion Program
We have all built barriers to love. We've had to in order to protect ourselves from the harsh realities of living a human life. Pain in life—loss, worry, heartbreak, hardship—is inevitable, but when we resist the pain, it usually just makes the pain more intense.
Nova is A 9-week online program in which you will learn science based practices that will transform your relationship with suffering.
You have the resources that give you the safety net to meet difficult experiences with less resistance. let's turn them on, & light up the darkness.
Mindful Self-Compassion is a proven way to accept yourself, build inner strength, & thrive.
In 9 weeks you will experience and Grow a deeper & compassionate relationship with yourself & others.
The Self Care System
Self-compassion is a practice in which we learn to be a good friend to ourselves when we need it most--to become an inner ally rather than an inner enemy.
The Yin & Yang of Self-Compassion
the three core Self -compassion meditation practices
Mindful Self-Compassion is an adventure that will take you into uncharted territory, and unexpected experiences will arise. Tough spots will show up as you learn to turn toward your struggles in a new way.
Zones of Tolerance
Self-Compassion helps down regulate the threat response. When the stress response (fight, flight, freeze) is triggered by a threat to our self-concept, we are likely to turn on ourselves. (we Fight ourselves =self-criticism, we flee from others=isolation, or we Freeze=rumination)
Doesn't self-compassion just mean throwing a pity party for poor me?
Self-compassion is an antidote to self-pity. While self-pity say's "poor me," self compassion recognizes that life is hard for everyone. Research shows that self-compassionate people are more likely to engage in perspective taking, rather than focusing on their own distress. Self-Compassion is not a "woe is me" attitude.
Self-compassion will make me lazy. I will give myself everything I want that makes me feel good.
People fear that being self-compassionate means being self-indulgent, it's actually just the opposite. Compassion inclines us towards long-term health and well-being. not short-term pleasure. Research shows self-compassionate people engage in healthier behaviors like exercising, eating well, drinking less, and going to the doctors more regularly.
If I'm compassionate to myself, I'll let myself get away with murder. I need to be hard on myself when I mess up to make sure I don't hurt other people.
Another fear is that self-compassion is really a form of making excuses for bad behavior. Self-compassion provides the safety needed to admit mistakes rather than needing to blame someone else for them. Research shows that self-compassionate people take greater responsibility for their actions and are more likely to apologize if they've offended someone.
Self-compassion is for wimps. I have to be tough and strong to get through my life.
Another big fear is that self-compassion will make us weak and vulnerable. In-fact, self-compassion is a reliable source of inner strength that confers courage and enhances resilience when we're faced with difficulties. Research shows self-compassionate people are better able to cope with tough situations like divorce, trauma, or chronic pain.